Ever been around someone that simply inspires you to be the best you can possibly be? The inspirational and stimulating things that say always leave you feeling fresh and new for the entire day. Their positive attitude seems to affect everything and everyone around them, including you. The happiness that exudes from their spirit seeps inside of your own, and you feel alive. These people keep you motivated and strong, and no matter what comes your way, you feel that you can handle it, because this person’s determination has rubbed off on you.
Ever been around someone that simply drags your spirit into the ground every time they are in your presence. They never have anything positive to say, and they always seem to have that same ole, “the world is unfair” attitude. They love to talk about all the things that are going wrong in their life. They live for gossip about most things that they truly don’t have all the facts about. They bask in being the first to point out why something won’t work, or how quick something will fail. Their unproductive attitude seems to crowd your shine, leaving you feeling drained and frustrated.
Now, I’m sure that ALL of us can answer yes to both types of people that I have elaborated on. I know that I’m raising my hand and saying, “AMEN!”
Energy and passion is contagious, but so is negativity and indifference. There is no doubt that both of these types of people will enter our lives more often than a few, but we have a choice to either ride the higher vibration or tread on the lower one. There are times when we may get sucked into the current of the lower vibration and by the time we realize we have stopped breathing it’s too late.
So you are asking, “Okay Diva, how do we deal with these negative people and stay afloat?” Well, here is what works for me…
1. Leave - The first thing I do when I feel that there is some fowl or unproductive energy in my space is leave. This is probably the easiest thing to do; just simply walk away. How many times have you found yourself at work or some other function and realized that you were in the middle of a negative conversation? That is the moment that you just simply excuse yourself and gracefully move that negative energy out of your space. Now, if you REALIZE that you are in a negative conversation and you choose to stay, you can’t blame anyone but yourself for the outcome, because trust, there will be an outcome.
2. Think Positive – Whenever people are around you and they begin to talk about how horrible life is or how life is treating them so unfair, begin to think about something positive in your life. I know I always begin to think of something wonderful that is happening in my life, or something wonderful that is about to happen. I split my mind in two; sort of like a picture in a picture. I insert a small happy memory into the big picture.
3. Close Your Eyes – Now this may not be so easy when you are having a one-on-one with a person, but I normally begin to slow the blinking of my eyes down. Closed eyes, even if closed for a second or two, brings your brainwaves down to relaxed state. Don’t believe me, try it now. Just take a few slow eye-blinks and watch what happens to you physical and mental state. You are much less susceptible to negative energy when you are in that relaxing, contemplative space.
4. Unplug Your Energy - Imagine that you are literally pulling your plug out of the other person. These negative people thrive on their ability to bring others down to their vibrational level. Use visualization, feeling, or intention to pull your plug and maintain your own vibrational level. It works for me. Sometimes, when someone is sending off those negative vibes I actually make the hand motion like I just pulled the plug out of the wall. I usually get the “what are you doing” question, but my response is “pay no attention to me” or “I had a cramp in my wrist.” They are usually so caught up in their negativity that they don’t ask anything else.
Let’s face it. No matter how positive we intend to be and how focused we are on attracting positive people into our lives, there are times when we will come into contact with negative people.
The next time you come in contact with a vibration that doesn’t send off energy that is pure light, try some of the things I have mentioned above and let me know if this works for you….
Peace – Light – Love & ONEness,
~Diva
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Monday, October 13th 2008 at 10:39PM
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